Trash the 3 Foot Rule – Try This Instead

2017-09-29T22:31:00+00:00 Categories: Prospecting|Tags: , |
You Can Build It

You Can Build It

If you’ve been around the networking industry for any time, you’ve probably heard about the marketing technique called the 3 Foot Rule.

It exists because the road to success is all about talking to people about your business and finding the handful of partners who see it, get it, build it. So, exposure to the business model and your company is the way you get started. It follows then that it’s a numbers game. The more people you talk to, the more likely you are to find the people who are interested in what you’ve got.

And, interestingly about 70 thousand people worldwide get started in a networking business every single day, so if you were to talk to even some of the people you encountered in a day, chances are good, you’d find some business partners.

So, the 3 Foot Rule was a technique often taught to enthusiastic beginners – I shouldn’t say was, I should say IS. Someone will tell you: talk to anyone that gets within 3 feet of you – wherever and whenever. Suddenly everyone is a walking target – your walking target. And, it ain’t pretty.

Maybe it’s happened to you – you’re waiting in line at the post office or at the grocery store and someone starts up a quick conversation and asks what you do and the next thing you know, they’re telling you ought to check out this great new company that’s going to change your life, make you healthy, help you lose weight, grow hair if you’re bald and make you rich – maybe even by next week!

It makes people want to run screaming from the building. Really. It does. Do you suppose in any other profession people find business partners by stalking them in the supermarket? OK – maybe I’m exaggerating a little, but really, it’s one of the things that makes people love to hate network marketing. People are taught to come on like a freight train and it’s a turn-off.

No one likes an in-your-face-marketer, and I don’t think most of us want to be one, either. It’s unattractive at best. There are great ways to talk to people when you’re out – and, in my opinion, this isn’t the way to do it.

So, what is the way to talk to people you don’t know? Be SUBTLE. Be PROFESSIONAL. Do it like this: Say you’re at a party, or in line at the post office – because honestly, sometimes I’m in line at the PO for longer than I’m at a party, at least it seems that way. You get chatting with someone. It’s a great skill to develop in this business –whether you like small talk or not – it will really serve you well over time to get good at it.

At a party, it’s a little more normal to make small talk by asking someone what they do. At the Post Office, you might start with the weather or someone more universal and less directly about them.

Let’s start with the party example – any gathering or business meeting would be the same, it’s a ‘mingling situation’ technique. Ask someone about themselves. Become a Master Question Asker. Most people will be very forthcoming, because they’re (generally speaking) talking about their favorite subject: themselves!

What do you do? Do you like it? What company are you with? Have you been there a long time? What’s it like? Learn a bit about them. In your mind you can be evaluating whether they might be a good business partner candidate. Are they upbeat? Friendly? Easy to talk to? Funny?

Maybe they reveal some things that tell you extra income might be helpful. Sometimes people will tell you they love what they do, but they work too much. Or don’t get enough vacation time. Or no retirement plan. Or, the job is great, the money is good, but they hate it! All of these become cues.

BUT YOU NEVER, I SAID NEVER – is that CLEAR? NEVER prospect them then and there. If they ask you what you do, you need to have a 2 minute answer prepared so you don’t either look like a deer in the headlights and not know what to say, or worse, start downloading everything about your business. I promise you that download will lose you more business then it will EVER get you. Guaranteed. Really. Avoid it like the plague.

Read my article: What to Say When They Ask: What Do You Do?

Then after a reasonable time you say – and you have to learn how to do this gracefully – you know, I’ve really enjoyed talking to you, you got my wheels turning and there’s something I’d actually like to run by you next week if I could call you – do you have a card?

NOTE: always carry your own card – a good generic one with your contact info, no business/company name is good (sort of like an old fashioned calling card). If you give them a card with the name of your business/company that you represent, you’re giving away what you want and it doesn’t work as well.

If they don’t have a card (and at parties and other social gatherings, people often don’t), you can say: Here, just write your info on the back of mine, hand them one of yours to write on, have a pen on you, get their info! Let me give you a call next week…if they press you and say, what do you want to talk about…you have to say something like…it’s a business question and I don’t want to talk business here, just not the right place, but I’ve really enjoyed talking to you – enjoy the party or see you later or whatever phrase feels comfortable to you.

Then, next week give them a call and say something along these lines: Hey Barbara, this is Sue Miller, we talked at the Siegel’s BBQ last Saturday and I mentioned wanting to give you a call. Is this a good time – do you have a quick minute right now? If not, ask her when she does, make a time, and call back.

If the timing works – say: you know, you mentioned that you love your work, but that you were concerned your husband might get downsized. I was wondering if you two keep your financial options open and if you might be interested in looking at a very interesting way to generate a secondary income?

If you get a yes, you’re on your way. If you don’t have a good idea what to do when they say yes – read my article: Inviting Them to Take a Look.